Originally Posted by
Seriously700
Dear Abby,
Like many people, I may be investing too much in my "boyfriend" - financially, time-wise and emotionally.
It's turning out to be a very unsatisfactory relationship.
When we first "met," he was so much fun. He was handsome, witty, smart, charismatic. I never got bored. I wanted to spend more and more time with him. When I couldn't be with him, I'd visit the forum to talk about him with his other friends. Sometimes I was a little obsessed. I'd check in on him many times a day and even at night. I even introduced him to my kids and took him on our vacations.
To be fair, there have always been little red flags that made me uncomfortable. If I ever left money out in plain sight, it would mysteriously disappear. Usually I couldn't prove he had taken the money, but there was no one else around. Twice, I accidentally dropped my wallet and he grabbed it and wouldn't return it. He said "finders keepers." I even wrote him a polite note asking for my wallet back, but returning wallets was against his policy. I guess he had strong morals in that way. But I had a lot of money in that wallet and it was very upsetting that he would do such a thing.
A couple of times I tried not to see him for a few days. But eventually his charisma would charm me back and I'd forgive him. But I have learned to never ever again have money around him. That much, at least, I learned. That wallet stays far away from him!
And now, he's done another very hurtful thing. He gave me and my kids awesome presents. No, that's not the hurtful part. My son and I loved ours, but my daughter didn't open hers right away so he took it away. WTH? Oh well, I rationalized, she maybe wouldn't have liked it that much. But then a few days later, while we were out, he took back the presents from my son and myself. At first, we didn't know what was happening and we were very confused. But when we confronted him, he said sorry, but he made a mistake, he hadn't meant to give them to us and he had to take them back.
I am so upset. Is it time to leave this boyfriend behind? Did I tell you he's so much cuter than all the other guys I've met? It's so hard to leave after spending so much time with him.
Signed,
seriously upset