I think some people have different criteria. Some only want nbrs who gift and accept requests but don't water as they don't want to themselves. On my second farm I requested nbrs for gifting and accepting requests only. I play many TL games and don't have time to visit on 2 sets of games. I do visit daily from my main games. Though I did start only watering from my wall and newsfeed through the work week. However I am going to alter that and visit from my wall, newsfeed then all my 3-4 star players from my nbr list (and a few 1-2 star players who i know water when they can) I didnt like playing the other way cause I don't want to be one of those nbrs that only water if you water first. This way I at least won't feel like I'm doing that.