Should parents be your facebook friends?

[blackwidow52]

If you have facebook, do you let your parents be your neighbors?

[bigbux3]

I'm guessing you don't want your parents as a Facebook friend seeing as though the answer NO!! is first in the poll.
I can honestly answer you that if you loved your parents enough and you had nothing to hide I wouldn't care if they were my friends... but I'm not on Facebook, so the decision is yours.

[kooky panda]

I do not have them as friends, since they are not on facebook, but if they were, I would love the have them as friends.
When I do visit my Mom, she always wants me to bring my ipad so I can pull up my nieces and nephews facebook pages. She loves looking at all their photos.

My sisters are not their facebook friends, but they are all friends with Aunt Kooky!!! lol

[pinkster73]

Well I'm guessing I'm a bit older then the op, since my answer is I'm my kids' friends on Facebook.

[sweetstuff525]

If you are underage 18 then if I were your paterent if you want a Facebook you need to add me... If not no Facebook for you

[trace35]

If Facebook existed when I was under 23 , there is no way I would have wanted my parents to know what I was doing! That's why I will definitely not let my kids on Facebook when they are old enough unless they add me.
Of course now I'm older and boring I have nothing to hide anymore! 

[sourlicorice5]

If you are underage 18 then if I were your paterent if you want a Facebook you need to add me... If not no Facebook for you

I agree with this! I'm not friends with my parents but they don't have Facebook and don't want it. Plus I'm 36 so if they were on it I'd be more than happy to friend them :-)

[lylahmae]

My friend has a 16 year old daughter who thought she had a secret face book....when she found this secret Facebook by chance and saw what was on there she took her daughter's computer away, took her fancy cell phone and got her one of those old people flip phones with the big numbers and no texting and went to her school and changed her daughter's classes so she had as little contact with one particular boy as possible. So there is no reason to not friend your parents, if you don't want them to find out about something don't create evidence for them to find ie don't put it on Facebook. Even if you are not friends with them if it is on there they could find it anyway.

[trace35]

Very good parenting! I like it!

[sweetstuff525]

My friend has a 16 year old daughter who thought she had a secret face book....when she found this secret Facebook by chance and saw what was on there she took her daughter's computer away, took her fancy cell phone and got her one of those old people flip phones with the big numbers and no texting and went to her school and changed her daughter's classes so she had as little contact with one particular boy as possible. So there is no reason to not friend your parents, if you don't want them to find out about something don't create evidence for them to find ie don't put it on Facebook. Even if you are not friends with them if it is on there they could find it anyway.

Good suggestion ... In case this happens when my daughters are older ... They still young 8 and 2

[smiley326]

I'd like to add them in facebook. It'll be interesting to chat with them if I'm not at home
^^

[Rachael98]

I guess that you're the lower end of FB and S8 users' age-spectrum.
Perhaps you're trying to prove a point to your parents:p, but I think it's good to have parents as FB friends if they have it, especially at your age.
Hopefully you have nothing to hide (and if you do, surprise parties and suchlike - nothing more serious, use privacy settings rather than just blocking them!!!).
In saying that, so long as you're over 13, which you should be to use this forum and FB, so I hope you are, you have no obligation whatsoever to let them see more of your account than any other friends, so messages truly stay private etc.

However,

My friend has a 16 year old daughter who thought she had a secret face book....when she found this secret Facebook by chance and saw what was on there she took her daughter's computer away, took her fancy cell phone and got her one of those old people flip phones with the big numbers and no texting and went to her school and changed her daughter's classes so she had as little contact with one particular boy as possible. So there is no reason to not friend your parents, if you don't want them to find out about something don't create evidence for them to find ie don't put it on Facebook. Even if you are not friends with them if it is on there they could find it anyway.

This I completely disagree with.
Obviously I'm not aware of what was on there, and that's a fairly ambiguous thing to guess at: was it just them having a relationship that she didn't know about, or was it inappropriate images, etc?
She perhaps should have told her mother she had FB, but at 16 she didn't have to. She also had the right to post whatever she wanted within FB's policies.
Saying this, I can completely understand removing privileges if she felt it necessary. Computer, phone. Fine (so long as her mother had funded them in the first place)
However, moving her round at school - firstly in educational language - is disruptive, overly stressful and has a negative impact. In other words, it messes her about, loses her friends and makes her try to start socialising again not only when the groups of friends already exist, which makes it harder, but without any of the simplest electronic communications that are "expected" of someone her age by her peers.
So there.

[trace35]

You are obviously not a perent. I can only imagine what that CHILD had on her facebook page. Scary scary stuff!

[trace35]

At 16 yes. You do have to if your parents have said that you have to.

[trace35]

Facebook is medium. Facebook has no legal parenting writes over a 16 year old little girl.

[lylahmae]

And you don't need electronics learn to speak to people!

[mtytomlinson]

I don't mind adding my parents but yeah I do block them out on a lot of things. If they can be understanding bout certain things then I'm fine with it.

[pinkster73]

I find it amusing sometimes some of the things my kids friends say to me on Facebook. They don't know I'm The Mom quite often because i have a different last name then my kids.

[Zetra]

Family X Neighbor,through there's a lots of communication ways.

[pinkster73]

Maybe Stormie should be your kids Facebook friends.

[trace35]

Stormie is a bit on the quiet side. Perfect!

[jamesdean1957]

You shouldn't have facebook in the first place.

[camel_power]

You shouldn't have facebook in the first place.

Why is that?

[lylahmae]

Facebook is a very strange thing.

[firewhisker950]

My parents don't have Facebooks, so no. My kids are too young to have one, so I'm not friends with them either.

[jamesdean1957]

Why is that?
Because Its leaking your personal information to everybody. and here are some pretty sick things on there.

[Titania_Erza]

I don't hv FB! My parents didn't allowed me 'coz they said i'm not old enough to hv FB account.

[dinoman23]

Many young Facebook users don't yet understand the impact Facebook can have on their futures. No matter how private you think you are, anything you post is forever and can get you and your friends in trouble. Many companies include checking Facebook before hiring now, so what may seem harmless fun at 16, could very well prevent you from things you desire in the future. Believe it or not parents are just trying to look out for you at a time when you think only spontaneously and can not see the bigger picture. And no, I'm not my sons friend on Facebook, but he knows we have his password and will keep tabs.

[kooky panda]

When my niece was applying to colleges, the colleges were also checking out applicants facebook accounts.

[FrozenIris]

My parents have FBs but they aren't very active on them and I'm not "friends" with them.
I know that I'm not posting inappropriate things on my Facebook or anything (gotta trust me here lol), but it would still be rather uncomfortable to have my parents as "friends" on FB.
I'm not saying "NO!!" with capital letters and multiple exclamation marks, but I would probably feel a little awkward if I knew my parents could read my statuses, see my photos, etc.

[Titania_Erza]

But.. I hv email so i can send mail to my parents.. Maybe when i was older i would add my parents to be my friends

[lylahmae]

When my niece was applying to colleges, the colleges were also checking out applicants facebook accounts.

Not only their accounts but the accounts they are connected to. So if your buddy has you doing something in a picture or whatever they find it. The company I work for has people that watch the activity on Facebook of management and it can break your career, ie you can be denied a promotion or other opportunity because of something on Facebook. Even hourly union employees have been fired over things said on Facebook (mostly teenagers ) because what used to be a private conversation is now on public display.