Holding onto a community players message: Why do you do it?

[Scawr]

I have alot of players on Restaurant Story holding onto messages I have left them upon tipping from months to even years ago. But my main issue with this is, if they're using it to keep up with my remodels, they could at least leave me a silent tip?

If you're one of these people, why do you do it? How often do you visit & how often do you tip? If not, why not?

I think it's a little anti social to be honest. There's nothing stopping them from requesting to be neighbours. I do notice they have neighbours & do tip their neighbours daily {because we have mutual neighbours &/or they're so active they pop up on many walls}.

Not everybody likes to have their messages left on somebody elses wall. I've seen people literally write it on their walls for people to remove their messages. I'd also like people to remove my messages {because I don't care to be viewed & tippd by community players. It means I have to regularly clear my tables.. like.. by the hour. I have a life}.

Let's get to the bottom of this...

[twospoons]

I do, for exactly the reason stated--they're gorgeous places, and I want to see them again. And some people have neighbor requirements that I don't meet.

But I do tip when I visit.

[LadyEna]

I am 99% of time a silent tipper. I rarely leave messages.
But sometimes I will visit other Community players,
whose name intrigues me. I leave a tip every time.
I may leave a message sometimes.

As far as my wall, I delete the messages daily.
I just think it looks cleaner. And if there happens to
be a small conversation, it's not everyone's business.

Last few months I have decided to take weekends off.
I'm getting bored with the recent gameplay.
And I focus on other games( including console) and just getting away
from games all together too. Craft projects, new recipes, enjoying playtime
with my granddaughter (<--my daughter's Labradoodle, Penny. She's a Princess Ballplayer!..LOL)

[slayer7000]

Because i'm too lazy to delete them lol

[jinjw]

I never delete. But i never have a serious convo so, nothing to cover up. I am a silent tipper

[BellasHouse1]

I'm just curious as to why this has you so irritated?? Who cares whether people delete or keep their messages? Those are THEIR messages to do with what they want. If you don't want your messages saved, don't post anything to someone's wall, simple as that. I rarely delete messages unless someone posts something mean or nasty, (which is almost never). It's too time consuming to delete them all. If they implement a "Select All" feature, then sure...I'll delete the 7 years of messages on my wall.

[dirtyboots17]

I do think it's a bit strange when a non-neighbour will tip me regularly for months because I left a message on their wall once that they haven't deleted, but it's not that big of a deal. It's one of the reasons that I silent tip.

I visit community members often and will leave a tip if I like their design or if they have a witty name. I would be taken aback if any of these players were peeved that I created "work" for them in having to clear their tables and wasn't being considerate of them "having a life".

Most players leave tips with good intentions. Honestly, I think it is unfriendly and anti-social to be annoyed by non-neighbours leaving tips. One of the main aspects of this game is for community members to visit each other. Otherwise, players would be able to make their places private or disallow tipping.

If clearing your tables is too time-consuming, you could always just leave your tables full then no one would be able to tip any further.

Ultimately, a player's wall is their own and they have a right to leave up any message that is posted. I think asking them to delete messages only makes one seem petty. One can't control another person's wall any more than you can control what gifts a neighbour sends you, even if you ask nicely. But much like a neighbour who has an incompatible playing style, one can un-neighbour them and forget about it.

If the person is not a neighbour, you will likely not cross paths with them again (unless they are the "serial tipper" and even then they will take a hint if you never tip back). You can't even be certain that the tips are coming from the link on their wall rather than your name showing up in the Community list.

[olcastle]

But my main issue with this is, if they're using it to keep up with my remodels, they could at least leave me a silent tip?
...
{because I don't care to be viewed & tippd by community players. It means I have to regularly clear my tables.. like.. by the hour. I have a life}.


So confusing... do you want community players to tip you or not?

[sgoetzinger99]

I do think it's a bit strange when a non-neighbour will tip me regularly for months because I left a message on their wall once that they haven't deleted, but it's not that big of a deal. It's one of the reasons that I silent tip.

I visit community members often and will leave a tip if I like their design or if they have a witty name. I would be taken aback if any of these players were peeved that I created "work" for them in having to clear their tables and wasn't being considerate of them "having a life".

Most players leave tips with good intentions. Honestly, I think it is unfriendly and anti-social to be annoyed by non-neighbours leaving tips. One of the main aspects of this game is for community members to visit each other. Otherwise, players would be able to make their places private or disallow tipping.

If clearing your tables is too time-consuming, you could always just leave your tables full then no one would be able to tip any further.

Ultimately, a player's wall is their own and they have a right to leave up any message that is posted. I think asking them to delete messages only makes one seem petty. One can't control another person's wall any more than you can control what gifts a neighbour sends you, even if you ask nicely. But much like a neighbour who has an incompatible playing style, one can un-neighbour them and forget about it.

If the person is not a neighbour, you will likely not cross paths with them again (unless they are the "serial tipper" and even then they will take a hint if you never tip back). You can't even be certain that the tips are coming from the link on their wall rather than your name showing up in the Community list.

Thank you for so eloquently saying exactly what I was thinking! First time I've seen anyone be resentful for tips, or for leaving a message on a wall for too long.

[Scawr]

Some of the posts in this thread are completely off-topic. Please consider reading in full {& not just the title of this thread} before posting. So far I've only got a direct response by Twospoons & dirtyboots {thank you}. Others are attempting to swerve off topic. This isn't a discussion on why I play how I play. I am trying to direct this message {as the one on the recieving end of their gameplay} to those who do this particular thing.

I'm not saying people can't continue to do this. But if they knew how the person on the other end felt, they might perhaps consider going about this in a different way.

If players are going to continue holding onto my one message, whilst deleting all of their other messages, in order to visit & keep up with remodels, I'd like them to, at the very least, consider leaving me a tip every once in a while. Too much to ask? I think not. I don't think my requirements for adding me are either. I only hate recieving random parts.


EDIT: as a side note, I could have just easily left out the fact that I don't care to be tipped by community players. It doesn't dismiss the case in question. So please focus on the point of this thread.

[Jojocl141587]

If you don't want people holding onto messages you leave on their walls, then maybe stop leaving messages if it bothers you that much. Btw, the comment may come off as rude but that's not at all the tone. I just feel like it's an easy and obvious solution to the problem. They can't hold on to something if it's never there in the first place.

[Scawr]

If you don't want people holding onto messages you leave on their walls, then maybe stop leaving messages if it bothers you that much. Btw, the comment may come off as rude but that's not at all the tone. I just feel like it's an easy and obvious solution to the problem. They can't hold on to something if it's never there in the first place.


No, I completely agree with you. I actually do only silent tip community players now, whilst leaving messages upon visits to my neighbours only. I've had the occassional "please can you leave a link to your restaurant/bakery" & have completely ignored them {whilst feeling pretty awful about it too} but sending them a silent tip. That does push players to add me instead & has helped significantly.

[sgoetzinger99]

If you don't want people holding onto messages you leave on their walls, then maybe stop leaving messages if it bothers you that much. Btw, the comment may come off as rude but that's not at all the tone. I just feel like it's an easy and obvious solution to the problem. They can't hold on to something if it's never there in the first place.

It didn't sound rude. You're simply stating the obvious.

[Jojocl141587]

It didn't sound rude. You're simply stating the obvious.

Ok, good lol. I've never really had this issue. Of course I'm not a big tipper or care much if my neighbors tip me or not as long as they send me parts and answer requests during goals. I have some pretty good neighbors though.

[kayjco]

You don't have to remove the tips from your tables every hour. You could just leave them there. If you leave them there, you won't have even more of them to remove.

I would suggest you stop leaving messages on walls. Then nobody can leave them there and it won't upset you so much.

Remember: It's a game. It's supposed to be fun. If it's not fun for you, you need to make some changes to how you play. Make it fun.

[sehana]

Silent Tipper 98% of the time :)
I occasionally leave messages for those who've always tipped/gifted or are new to the game.

I hardly delete messages from my wall because I don't really have a lot of time. :/

[Nettie75]

No, I completely agree with you. I actually do only silent tip community players now, whilst leaving messages upon visits to my neighbours only. I've had the occassional "please can you leave a link to your restaurant/bakery" & have completely ignored them {whilst feeling pretty awful about it too} but sending them a silent tip. That does push players to add me instead & has helped significantly.

I kinda want to see your current remodel:confused: can I leave my id here for u to rqt ME, and u can delete me once I've seen ur place? I do random tips so I WILL tip...

[slayer7000]

I responded to your first question hahahaha what are you talking about. If you ask a question and people don't answer if the way you like, it doesn't mean it's "off topic"
Some of the posts in this thread are completely off-topic. Please consider reading in full {& not just the title of this thread} before posting. So far I've only got a direct response by Twospoons & dirtyboots {thank you}. Others are attempting to swerve off topic. This isn't a discussion on why I play how I play. I am trying to direct this message {as the one on the recieving end of their gameplay} to those who do this particular thing.

I'm not saying people can't continue to do this. But if they knew how the person on the other end felt, they might perhaps consider going about this in a different way.

If players are going to continue holding onto my one message, whilst deleting all of their other messages, in order to visit & keep up with remodels, I'd like them to, at the very least, consider leaving me a tip every once in a while. Too much to ask? I think not. I don't think my requirements for adding me are either. I only hate recieving random parts.


EDIT: as a side note, I could have just easily left out the fact that I don't care to be tipped by community players. It doesn't dismiss the case in question. So please focus on the point of this thread.

[twospoons]

Hi sehana! It's like a celebrity sighting. :D

(Your charts have answered so many questions for me over the years. Mostly "what's in that egg?")

(Sorry, that really was off topic.)

[sehana]

Hi sehana! It's like a celebrity sighting. :D

(Your charts have answered so many questions for me over the years. Mostly "what's in that egg?")

(Sorry, that really was off topic.)

LOL!! :D Thank you! yeah it's been a while since I've been on the forums!

Glad that my charts are still helping! :)