Well .. It's actually a hard question because there actually is gold involved. If there wasn't, this issue wouldn't have existed. Do you play PHS? Over there, aside from the 3 gems you can gift each day, there are constructible parts that some rooms need to be built. Over there, this "I send you - you send me" issue is quite minor as gem isn't the ONLY gift one can send. Many players simply check all nbrs and the game will send gems to 3 random players and after they'd sent a construcible part to the rest of their nbrs and feel less bad about it. I personally HATE that! Why? Well, because I barely build any construcible rooms, however, I'm always flooded with parts my many nbrs send me although I decline as often as I can but that means my chances of receiving a gem actually becomes smaller the more nbrs I have. Here on DS, however, as gold is the only gift, I'll either be 1 of the lucky 3 to receive a person's gem and if not, at least I will be able to get a fair chance on someone else's before my giftbox get's clogged.